Forgiveness
Thanks Nick Ortner for this great script on forgiving. When we hold onto all that anger it is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die! So go on …. give it ago.
Karate Chop: Even though I refuse to forgive them because of what they did to me…I deeply love and accept myself… (or you can simply say, “I’m OK” if love and accepting yourself is too much right now)
Karate Chop: Even though I refuse to forgive them because of what they did to me…I deeply love and accept myself…
Karate Chop: Even though I refuse to forgive them because of what they did to me…I deeply love and accept myself…
Eyebrow: I can’t believe they did that…
Side of Eye: I’m so angry…
Under Eye: It’s not right…
Under Nose: It’s not fair…
Under Mouth: And I refuse to let it go…
Collarbone: All this anger…
Under Arm: All this ____ (fill in the blank with how you feel)
Top of Head: In every cell of my body…
Eyebrow: I just can’t let this go…
Side of Eye: Because they don’t deserve that…
Under Eye: They don’t deserve my forgiveness…
Under Nose: And I refuse to let it go…
Under Mouth: So much anger..
Collarbone: About what happened…
Under Arm: About what they did…
Top of Head: About what they said…
Keep tapping on the “negative” or the “truth,” until you find that the intensity has lessened enough that you can say some positive statements, and have them feel fully or at least somewhat true. We tap on the “negative” first in order to clear this resistance, not to affirm it, but to open up the door for positive thoughts.
You can also simply tap through the points, as you think specifically about what they did, what they said, what happened.
See the movie in detail, and just keep tapping through the points. Identify other parts of the movie, keep going. You want to be able to think about the event or the person, without heavy resistance coming up.
When you’re ready, when it “feels” right, move on to some positive statements.
Eyebrow: Maybe it’s time to let this go…
Side of Eye: I wonder if I can let this go…
Under Eye: What if I can let part of this go…
Under Nose: Releasing this anger…
Under Mouth: From every cell of my body…
Collarbone: Letting it go…
Under Arm: Letting it all go…
Top of Head: Right now…
Tap through a couple of rounds of positive statements and feel free to add in your own words or affirmations. These are just guidelines to get you started, what’s most important is that you feel the feeling, get specific about what you experienced, and tap until it’s released.
When you’re done tapping, take a deep breath…and let it go. Think of what happened again, and notice how it’s changed. Write down your new number of intensity. Either stop tapping if you’re at a good place, or keep tapping until it’s fully released.
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