Just back from an amazing weekend away in the beautiful Golden Bay region. It was the first time I have been away overnight without themselves for a few years so it really was great, add to that 6 other fantastic women and learning a craft and I was on cloud nine.
Before heading away for the long weekend I had decided not to be too strict with myself over sugar, mainly because much of the food was catered and because I really didn’t know how I would be with treats around and others eating them. I had planned ahead a little though and made sure that I purchased sugar free snacks to share – corn chips, nuts and houmous – along with having breakfast goodies and also a few staples. I needn’t of worried though as even when the delicious chocolate dessert came out on the first night I was happy to say ‘no thanks’ and leave it at that! Morning teas, with baked and multi-sugared offerings, desserts and even chocolate snacks didn’t even draw me closer. I KNOW!! I’m as shocked as you! I remember reading in ‘Sweet Poison’ that when the addiction lifted goodies wouldn’t be an issue however I half laughed when I read it thinking ‘yeah right mate!’ The thing is he was right. There was no craving there at all, it was just another food on the plate rather than then great temptress it had been some 2 months earlier.
Now here is the interesting part for me….. while I was away I wasn’t really craving anything – sugary or otherwise. I ate my 3 meals each day, only had a snack late afternoon as I was genuinely hungry and tea wasn’t till much later, and had no thoughts of eating more than that. I guess I was busy weaving and learning new skills in the day and then talking in the evening so maybe that was the reason. The thing is that as soon as I got home the ‘search for food’ was on. I wasn’t even hungry yet by walking through the home threshold I had reverted to old patterns of eating between meals and wanting second helpings. The difference, from the 4 days prior, shocked me and reminded me yet again of the power of emotions and emotional eating! In coming home I had come back to the little triggers in life that seeing me reaching for food rather than expressing my emotions in positive ways.
I have known for a while that my overeating is linked to my emotions however after reading David Gillespie’s book I had secretly hoped that maybe, just maybe, eliminating the sugar would eliminate that emotional eating I had hooked myself into. This weekend, and coming home, as shown me that while changing foods and eating habits are very helpful in getting you on the path of becoming healthy it won’t change much if you are still holding onto those emotional triggers that caused you to grab for the wrong foods in the first place. Sure the food I grab for is much, much healthier now that I’m not addicted to sugar just that in my quest for health and good habits around food it isn’t quite enough. Clearing the emotional baggage is the only way, yes the only way to eliminate that emotional eating.
Throughout this journey, and before, I have been using Bach Flower Remedies (BFR) and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to help me when I have wanted to eat rather than expressing or releasing emotions. I have even created EFT you-tube videos for it and documents about which BFR are good! So it was a good wake up call to take my own advice and use the tools I know work so well to help me clear all those emotional triggers I locked in so long ago. It is hard I’ll say that, harder than giving up sugar, as it is a life time of using food as a support system. My aim is to eating healthfully though and in a way that nourishes my body rather than punishing it so it is important to deal with more than just the food going in. I need to deal with the why. Maybe you do to so, I thought I would pop in a few remedies that I have found useful. Of course everyone is different so if you want to find the remedies which best suit you then check out my quiz to get the right one for you.
Agrimony – if you find yourself comfort eating to stay happy and to stop thinking about your problems or uncomfortable feelings. It will get rid of your inner restlessness and express emotions easier.
Centaury – to help you say ‘no’ to food you can’t resist or to ‘kind’ friends who offer a piece of cake to go with your coffee! If you don’t like hurting people’s feelings and eat to please others then Centaury will really help you.
Chestnut Bud – if you are a yo-yo dieter. When you don’t learn from the past and keep repeating the same mistakes (like reaching for that chocolate bar!) then this is a remedy for you.
Crab Apple – if you have poor body image and become obsessed with the details of diets.
Gentian – if you are easily set back and become despondent if something goes wrong. Maybe you doubt your ability to eat healthy food or lose weight or you give up if you don’t have a good weight loss straight away.
Holly – if you eat because you are angry, jealous or have deep hurts from the past.
Star of Bethlehem – if your eating is for comfort after a trauma, shock, grief or fright. This can be something that happened recently or in the past.
Hope this finds you all happy, healthy and full of energy for the week ahead.