The other week I was part of organizing a Level 1 EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) course locally. It was a wonderful day of learning, sharing and revision. It also felt great knowing that more people were learning this amazing tool to clear issues. There is nothing nicer, to me at least, than learning with others and touching base with those more skilled that I to confirm that what I’m doing is on track. 🙂
Tapping points (karate chop point and wrist not shown)
While the course covered material I already knew it was a good reminder of certain things and watching a more experienced ‘tapper’ dealing with issues as they arose was priceless. One of the most important reminders I took from the day however was the importance of getting to zero. When we begin tapping we check in with ourselves as to the intensity of the issue and give it a SUD rating. SUD stands for Subjective Units of Distress and it is rated between 0-10 at the start and end of a round. A SUD rating of 0 being no emotional charge around the topic and 10 being highly emotionally charged. When I first learnt EFT I was shown to keep going to zero (which is why it was so effective) and then somehow over the years of forgetting it, re-finding it and listening to many different speakers I began to focus on just getting to around a 3 in my SUD rating. Getting to around a 3 meant that I was able to begin looking at the issue a bit more objectively. Getting to around a 3 also meant that the pain was less and most importantly only getting to a 3 meant that it often didn’t take that long and I didn’t have to dig that deep. The thing is that often the same issue re-surfaces for me later on down the track and I have to tap around it all over again. Oh the ways we think we are protecting ourselves 🙂
On the workshop Liz Hart talked about the importance of taking it down to zero and then checking it again by repaying the ‘movie’ of the event in your head to see if anything else comes up. I won’t kid you this is not a quick process (well at least not so far for me) but it is so, so, so much more effective. While on the workshop I decided to began tapping on a topic which I kept thinking about even though it was 30 years ago!! It was around a 5-6 so it wasn’t that emotionally charged yet I couldn’t seem to let the memory go. I still felt odd around the people involved and still wanted to blame this one woman (then girl) however it all felt wrong and petty so hoped that tapping on it would help. As I tapped I quickly got down to a zero using the ‘movie’ technique. Yay, I thought…. sorted. That is until I began playing the movie back and realised that I couldn’t even get past the first scene!
To make a long (I had to repeat the process a few times and keep tapping for a good 30 mins solid after my initial 10 mins tapping) and old story short I realised that it wasn’t even anything to do with ‘that girl’ and I had simply used her as a scape goat to cover what was really the issue…….. the stress I felt before the event and the argument I had with my mother after the event when I blamed ‘that girl’ for everything as a way to get out trouble. Without getting to zero, re-playing the movie (and replaying it again several times) then stopping to tap as soon as emotions came up I would never have got to the root cause of my seemingly lack of forgiveness of certain events and people.
It was a great eye-opener and one that has made me change my actions. I now record issues I begin tapping on and don’t have enough time to clear fully by simply write the ‘movie’ name in a notebook and the SUD rating I left it at and then returning to it when I have time. Gary Craig suggests the same thing in his Personal Peace Procedure and it is so worth it. Give it a go…. what do you have to loss except negative feelings!
Hope this finds you creating your own personal peace.
Lately I’ve been doing a bit more EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) reading and whenever I do it always brings up new questions about how I relate to the world around me.
The book I have been reading is Jessica Ortner’s ‘The Tappping Solution for Weight Loss and Body Confidence’. It is a great book which talks about NOT how we can shift weight by dieting but about what our connect to food is and what beliefs we hold around food. It encourages us to deal with and let go of all the negative emotions, thoughts, beliefs and connections we hold about our bodies, eating and food. In doing so we begin to value ourselves and nourish our bodies accordingly.
Jessica Ortner’s book
It has made me take time to discover my own triggers to eating, my own limiting beliefs about what is acceptable, my own beliefs about my body and my own emotions which I ‘stuff’ down with food because they are too painful to feel. Even the way I eat certain foods – standing for morning tea because I feel that I should be busy elsewhere rather than having a snack with the kids – or the times I feel like I need food have been created out of my emotions and beliefs.
While tapping along with the scripts she has provided I found myself remembering things which I thought were long since dealt with. Yet as I tapped and remembered the pain came and I made connections between my actions now and those events of years ago. It is amazing what we store and how those stored emotions and events then dictate how we act in the present.
Tapping (EFT) never ceases to amaze me and never ceases to shift my thinking to a more positive and calm state of mind.
Hope this finds you loving life, food and the body you’re in to the fullest.
Well here we are post Valentine’s day and you may be wondering why on earth I would be blogging about it now! The thing is that this Valentine’s day was so different for me that I really wanted to share.
You see this Valentine’s day is the first that I have actually forgotten (well until the day before that is), the first one I haven’t actively planned for and yet it was one of the best, maybe the best,I have ever had. 🙂
I pondered on this as I went on my morning run and it wasn’t until another woman ran past me that it hit. I have finally come a bit closer to accepting and loving myself regardless of the world around me. You see normally I would have begun berating myself for being less fit and hence slower than the other woman passing me or I would of begun a long story of why I was slower than her. In the past I would have started planning Valentine’s day way in advance so that the day, and myself, would feel special and loved.
In short I wasn’t loving my life, my place in it or myself enough to accept that who I was, was in fact special and wonderful. I am definitely still on the path to self acceptance and think that it will always be that way as life unfolds however it felt great to know that I was a little further along to really loving and accepting myself.
So my challenge to you (and myself) is to treat everyday like it is Valentine’s day. Instead of giving gifts to other loved ones however let us all give ourselves gifts of tenderness, compassion, love, forgiveness and understanding as we journey along. After all, when all is said and done, our love for ourselves is the one that impacts most on our lives.