Funny that just over 2 weeks ago I was thinking we were losing our sense of community and yet since then (and my ‘wake-up’ call from a friend) I have been seeing it, feeling it and touching it everywhere.
I think though that this weekend was the highlight of that. We had gone down to Christchurch to drop off herself at a Guide camp, so decided to park up the bus outside our friend’s place to have a good catch up….. and eat some delicious GF and vegan hand-crafted Canadian perogies (sorry, a secret recipe so no sharing that today) . We haven’t had the bus at their place since the beginning of the year and yet as himself was letting the dog stretch his legs a neighbourhood boy came up to him, smiling and saying ‘Hey, it’s YOU …. I know YOU! You’re back!’.
Parked up in Suburbia
I love the idea that we (or maybe more correctly our big green bus) are part of his community. I love the idea that he was excited to see that we had returned. I love the idea that to him it seemed completely normal that a 1956 Bedford bus would be parked up in his street. Clearly, community is everywhere when you’re looking and open to it …. I for one am very grateful that I have begun to open my eyes to that fact.
I hope this finds you embracing your own community in whatever shape it takes.
It is amazing just how many lessons the universe has to offer when we are open to learning and listening. This week I had two such lessons – one from a little mouse and one from my Mum.
The first lesson came unexpectedly when last Sunday one of our little mice finally had her litter of eight. On waking our Mama mouse had very carefully carried all her babies into the beautiful nest she made. We gave her space for bonding to occur, unfortunately though by the day we checked only one baby was alive. Mama mouse had made the most amazing nest for her brood, she even ensured they were all in the nest however it seemed that she had forgotten to feed them. Tending rather to nest building rather than nursing.
Our Silky mouse – no longer a Mama mouse.
My lesson, with the kids, was it takes much more than a beautiful home to have your kids flourish, live and thrive. I mean I know this, really I do! Yet there are many times I have worried about what the house looks like, stressing and tidying before a guest arrives rather than just being present and calm with the kids. This brought me a reminder that the most important thing about parenting is being there for your children and feeding them (mentally, physically and spiritually) for them to truly grow.
My second lesson came when my Mum sent me an e-mail she had received about ‘Why we Shout in Anger’. I have posted the story below (after my website link) so that you can decide if there is a lesson in it for you too. I certainly made me re-think the way I react to the ones I love in times of stress or anger and also which message I actually want to be sending them.
A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.
‘Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?’
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout.’
‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ asked the saint
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .
‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.
What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’
The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’
He looked at his disciples and said.
‘So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return. They may end up in divorce courts, for instance.’