Doing a bit of re-blogging over the next few weeks as I currently have a broken wrist. While I can do the old ‘one handed’ type it is a bit of a mission so decided that this is one area I can give myself a rest while I start to help himself with his lessons 🙂 The following is from Sep 2015 …..
It is amazing just how many lessons the universe has to offer when we are open to learning and listening. This week I had two such lessons – one from a little mouse and one from my Mum.
The first lesson came unexpectedly when last Sunday one of our little mice finally had her litter of eight. On waking our Mama mouse had very carefully carried all her babies into the beautiful nest she made. We gave her space for bonding to occur, unfortunately though by the day we checked only one baby was alive. Mama mouse had made the most amazing nest for her brood, she even ensured they were all in the nest however it seemed that she had forgotten to feed them. Tending rather to nest building rather than nursing.
My lesson, with the kids, was it takes much more than a beautiful home to have your kids flourish, live and thrive. I mean I know this, really I do! Yet there are many times I have worried about what the house looks like, stressing and tidying before a guest arrives rather than just being present and calm with the kids. This brought me a reminder that the most important thing about parenting is being there for your children and feeding them (mentally, physically and spiritually) for them to truly grow.
My second lesson came when my Mum sent me an e-mail she had received about ‘Why we Shout in Anger’. I have posted the story below (after my website link) so that you can decide if there is a lesson in it for you too. I certainly made me re-think the way I react to the ones I love in times of stress or anger and also which message I actually want to be sending them.
A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.
‘Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?’
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout.”
But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ asked the saint. Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .’When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.
What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’
The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’
He looked at his disciples and said.’So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return. They may end up in divorce courts, for instance.’
For a few years now I have been subscribed to a ‘Daily Dose’ of inspiration by Light Watkins. I stumbled across it without knowing that it was exactly what I was looking for and I have been grateful ever since. Now every morning my email brings me a little food for thought to start my day on. It is just a little something which takes me out of the speeding train in my head and into the now.
Since then I have been part of his ‘Happiness Insiders’, which has challenged me to complete over a year of consistent meditation to date. I have also enjoyed being part of an online book club which is exposing me to different authors and genre I would not normally of even considering. My world is slowly expanding in different ways.
The thing is though if anyone had told me I needed to read this or needed to do that my immediate reaction would have been rebellion. I would have moved further away from whatever they suggested, either consciously or subconsciously. Even if it is to my detriment I would continue, at least until a wake up call arrives to tell me to ‘sort my sh!+ out’! It is the story of my life in fact. Whatever was ‘fashionable’ and ‘trendy’ at the time was exactly what I didn’t like. I liked to buck the trend and back the outsider but mostly I think it is not wanting to be told what to do. I like doing things differently. I guess it makes me feel that I have more control over my own life …. that I’m not one of the millions …. even if it isn’t always the smartest choice.
You’d think with my will to ‘do things as I please’ I would be more understanding of others having their own way too. Sadly, this is not always true but the meditation and reading different ideas on life is helping. I’m learning to take a deep breath when I feel the need to direct others and keep my mouth shut. I’m learning to give love and understanding rather than judgement and criticism. If I’m being honest though, at the moment I am mostly in that stage of knowing but not doing very consistently. They say practice makes perfect so fingers crossed! So when Light Watkins dropped this in my inbox the other week it was a great reminder for me and as it fits so well with my ‘Advice’ piece the other week that I thought I would share it with you too 🙂
Hope this finds you living the life you want and letting others do the same.
One of the most interesting things I have learnt since being on this journey of natural health, both in becoming more aware of my actions and while working with clients, is that ultimately we are all dealing with similar issues and wanting similar things.
It amazes me how often I hear people feeling the same as I am at the same time. It never ceases to astound me that others share my fears and I am always left feeling that we are connected so much more than we realise.
Treating others how we want to feel can also benefit us.
I have begun a little challenge for myself and I thought I would share. I’m trying to view others as if they were wanting the same as me, regardless of how different their actions or words may be, and reacting to them as I would want to be treated. Viewing them as wanting to be loved, wanting to be valued, wanting to be included and wanting to be happy. Treating them with respect, giving them time and as much patience as I can.
I’m in the early stages of my challenge and it is hard to remember at times, yet when I do view others this way I suddenly feel very different. It actually adds to my life in a good way rather than detracting from it and leaves me with a positive vibe that then flows into my day, improving it no end.
So I had a good lesson last week in living in the present moment and not trying to rush ahead with life – my usual tactic- when my scheduled post only to have it disappear into cyber space. Today I had another reminder on the importance of living one day at a time so here I sit on a Monday night and type so that I know it will actually publish! 🙂
The truth is though that I am bloody impatient in life. There I’ve said it. I’m the person who is always thinking 3 steps ahead while working on a task. I’m the one who literally can’t sit still because I have so many things that I could be doing. I’m the one who hates waiting to do or say something which could be happening now. I’d love to sugar coat my impatience as enthusiasm however it isn’t that sweet. My impatience often turns to irritation at myself and others which is not the best look for someone advocating health and stress-less days! 🙂
Making the most of a snowy Porters Pass for a quick play
I do however notice that the more I think and talk about stress-less tools, emotional release tools (EFT and Bach Flower Remedies) along with well-being, the more I am aware of my actions and the faster I am able to ‘nip’ my behaviour in the bud. I bring my focus back to the here and now so that I can make that moment count. Time is not renewable and actions speak louder than words. I’m learning. I’m learning minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day to make the most of it all.
Extending our lunch time so the kids can enjoy make their own meal.
As I said today while out I was reminded of all of this as a woman shared her life story with me. Everything can change in an instant so it is important to make sure I am living the life I want. I am so fortunate to live the life I do. I am also so fortunate to have a loving and supportive network around me, of both friends and family, and even though sometimes my hurried arse is too busy to show it I am so, so grateful for all of you and everything you bring to my life.
Sending you all lots of loving thoughts and reminders to make the most of each of your days with the ones you love.